What Really Makes a House Into a Home


We spend a lot of time talking on this blog about how to sell your house. One of the first things you learn when you’re getting a house ready for sale is to remove your personal touches so the potential buyer can picture themselves in it. They need to see your house as their future home.

That is why we are supposed to remove clutter and personal items, take down family pictures and make it look like the house isn’t really lived in. What most experts don’t tell you is that you also need to emotionally prepare yourself to sell a home. Not only to deal with the ups and downs of the sales process, but to also be prepared to say goodbye when the time comes.

The Emotional Connection

It’s amazing but somewhere along the line the house you bought from someone else (or had built) turns into more than 4 walls and a roof. It becomes home; the place where you feel comfortable, safe and live your life. Not the one that involves reports, deadlines, bosses and nine to five, but the life that really matters.

Home is where you laugh and cry (hopefully the first more than the second). It’s where you make and share meals, have people over to share in your special moments and continue your journey through life.

Packing Up and Moving On

When I was in high school, my parents divorced and we moved out of the house I lived in for eight years. When I lived there, I hated that house. The kitchen had old, brown and yellow laminate flooring. If I ran my heater and someone else ran their blow dryer, the fuse box would have a meltdown. My room was an addition, so I was colder in the winter and hotter in the summer than everyone else. I longed to move out of there so badly.

But when it came time to pack up and go, I didn’t see any of that. I saw the room I had my first slumber party in. I saw the family room where we had Christmas mornings. I saw the driveway basketball court where I mastered the layup and won my first game of HORSE.

I was sixteen then. It wasn’t until I was 26 that I bought my own house and lived in one place longer than a couple of years. So, when I find myself getting mad about how the plumbing hums too loud, how the window in the bedroom leaks or how the paint isn’t quite perfect, I have to remind myself to relax.

Because one day I will leave this house and I won’t see those things. I’ll see the living room where my daughter met her family for the first time. I’ll see the rooms that my wife and I painted to turn an office into a nursery. I’ll see the basement corner where I started my business. And I will be sad that I’m leaving it behind.

Your Turn

Everybody has a story about how they turned a simple living space into a home. And we want to hear yours! Record a five minute video explaining how your house became a home and it will be featured on our website. We can’t wait to hear your story!

Please email your video to broker@calpre.com